Most new years resolutions are nothing more than a vague idea or wish and a weak hope that you will have the will power to keep doing it (longer than January)
I strongly believe that there is a missing factor that the majority of people miss when it comes to making these work.
Let’s face it it’s not Christmas unless you push your body to the brink of alcoholism and diabetes. Then we enter the new year somewhat fatter and feeling less healthy than before.
So, laden with turkey fat, alcohol and guilt we make some vague resolution about going to the gym or eating better and make a start with about motivation to get us through the first few days…
Then the excuses start… and 3 days after that life gets in the way and you forget all about it… till next year.
There are 3 factors which will fix this:
1 – know why you want it – and I mean really REALLY understand why this is really think about what you want THIS year (2015). What do you want your life to look like by March?… by June?… by September?… by next Christmas?
What steps do you need to take and by when in order to have an outside chance of this actually occurring?
Meditate on this – take your time and really consider what it’s going to take to get there.
Is it worth making a list of the things you want? Why you want it? What steps you’ll have to take?
Got that? – Good!
2 – Get some way of monitoring a timeline of when those steps are due, exactly what you need to do to complete each one – (and if you can break down each step into micro steps that you can take then even better – this helps you avoid feeling overwhelm)
Set up all your goals – the micro steps – the timeline – due dates and what constitutes completeness for each goal ie exactly what it looks like when it’s fully complete[I use goals on track which allows you to track multiple goals, sub tasks, timelines. It also has a new habit tracker to help you build new habits by forming chains of activity and even a journal so you can take notes about what worked for you and what resistance you may have encountered in trying to form new habits or getting your tasks done.
This is important because you WILL encounter resistance from your own mind – and you have to find ways to fight against that BS – it will stop you achieving your goals guaranteed!]
3 – Accountability. Find yourself an accountability partner. We will always tend to do more if we have to report to someone else… it makes your failures so much more visible and uncomfortable… but it will also make your successes so much more exciting and encouraging.
Find an accountability partner – someone who has big dreams for this year as well and 2 to 5 times a week (just decide and book it in for every week till the end of the year) do a 3 minute phone call.
No small talk – ok? – just 90 seconds to talk about what you have done (based on what you said you were going to do) and what you are going to do between now and the next call… then swap and you hear and take notes for the other person.
I’ll say it again… “take notes” that way you can truly hold them accountable…
Give them a dose of “you said you were going to do this: BLANK – Why haven’t you done it and when is it going to be done by?”
And expect the same in return.
If you like making new years resolutions which are weak and you have no real motivation to complete them then keep going the way everyone goes…
But know this – each time you fail you further cement the idea that you are a failure in your brain (which is highly dangerous in the long run)
If you have something that you truly are serious about then take these 3 steps.
Don’t miss any steps!
Do them each with care and focus like your life depends on it.
And each tiny micro step you take with further cement the knowledge that you are a success. Each mini goal successfully completed is going to support your self image and motivation to complete the next one.
You’re on top of a snow covered mountain right now… and you can either push the snowball down the dark side of the hill or down the light side…
One leads to shadow and gloom the other leads to light, health and happiness…